• Tosh Patterson

My Embarrassing Story

This is such an embarrassing story, but I'm gonna share it with you anyway because there’s a point in my sharing.

Rewind to 2011.

 My days were fast paced. I’d wake up, grab my iPhone, and scroll through email.

 Breakfast was optional, but a Starbucks iced grande latte was a must!

At that time, my to-do list was never ending. Each moment of the day was packed, going from appointment to appointment with barely a moment to escape for lunch, never mind restroom breaks.

On this particular day, I darted into the restroom to change my tampon and realized it wasn’t there.

No string.

No tampon.

Nothing. The whole thing…just MIA.

There I stood, confused, as to how could it be MIA when I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, I had inserted a tampon.

I was HORRIFIED!!!! Why me?

I couldn't recall any of my friends EVER mentioning losing a tampon inside.

In a panic I went to YouTube to learn if others experienced it. No luck.

Then I proceeded to call my best friend. She too hadn’t heard of it.

My mom said something similar happened to her many years ago…go to the gynecologist she said.

So there I was, on the exam table, talking to my gynecologist.

 Doc: It’s not there. In fact, there’s nothing there.

 Me: Are you sure?

 Doc: Positive. Nothing there. Maybe it slipped out.

 Me: But I would have felt that. Are you sure it’s not lost inside me?

 Doc: I don’t know what else to tell you but I’m certain it’s not there. Did you even put one in?

 Me: Silence.

 And there I was. All propped up on the table thinking, "did I put a tampon in?"

I had been so busy, rushing from place to place, going from one thing to another that I couldn’t even remember if I had used a tampon.

At first I felt crazy, then I thought, "I can’t be the only one who is so busy, so rushed, so automated that I do things without awareness."

My embarrassing tampon moment caused me to be more conscious in my life.

Hopefully you haven’t had a moment like this, but I’d be willing to wager that you’re constantly on the go.

You take care of everyone else, but what about your own self-care?

Are you so overworked, overwhelmed, and inundated that you find yourself on the bottom of the list?


How? Begin infusing self-care into your daily practice by taking 10 minutes of stillness.

This is exactly what I did after my embarrassing moment and it's a practice I've maintained and now teach to clients.

Step 1: Identify a place you can lay flat or sit still on for 10 minutes. No music. No reading. No TV. This step should NOT take place when you're in bed about to go to sleep. Designate time during the day.

Step 2: Set the timer on your cell phone or other electronic device to 10 minutes.

Step 3: Enjoy the silence and calm. Notice what it feels like for you to be uninterrupted for 10 minutes. Just you breathing and reconnecting to yourself. How does your body feel? What sounds do you hear?

It’s time to be more checked-in and less checked-out!


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